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Unforgiveness can be Deadly

Updated: Jan 27, 2020

The bulk of our pain within our life comes from not forgiving wounds done to us. If you find yourself in emotional or physical illness, forgiveness could be just the answer you've been seeking. You owe it to yourself to search out the many possibilities of forgiveness.

We have all experienced a time or two when someone has either hurt or offended us, which may have led us to adopt the stance of unforgiveness.

At some point, we have found ourselves replaying the pain repeatedly in our minds, and in doing so, it would cause anger and bitterness to grow in our hearts.

From personal experience, I had found unforgiveness to be a gateway to illness, stagnation, and misery. Over 10 years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer, and before the prognosis, I was angry and bitter due to years of infidelity, etc. As my life took a turn for the worst, I grew angry and resentful. Although I kept my anger boxed up and believed I hid it well, I was still making myself physically ill with the constant playbacks of why and how come.

I recall hearing on the car radio "Reclaim Your Life and Remember, Forgiveness is a choice." I thought, "Yeah, that's true to some degree." The part that rang so loud in my ear was, Reclaim Your Life." As the years rolled by, I felt mentally and emotionally drained and knew it was time to get a remedy to the pain I was experiencing.

I knew I had to forgive to move on with my life. I don't know what your path to forgiveness is shaped like or looks like, but what I do know is, you must forgive.

Unforgiveness Makes You Physically Ill

Can you believe that holding back forgiveness is like allowing disease to spread full force through our body while ignoring the necessary treatment to eradicate it? According to studies from the Cancer Treatment Centers of America, refusing to forgive makes people sick and keeps them sick. Per the center, more than 60% of cancer patients have forgiveness issues, and of those, more than half are severe.

Unforgiveness can lead to severe depression and anxiety, and all of this leads to excess adrenaline and cortisol. This depletes the production of natural killer cells that we need to fight off cancer cells. So many of us don't realize how much of a burden resentment, hatred, and anger can be until you release them.

Unforgiveness Is Highly Unattractive

Withholding forgiveness can make us feel righteous, even suitable for a time. However, even our sense of righteousness can transform into deep-rooted bitterness, and there isn't enough bronzer, mascara, or concealer that will have the capabilities to cover it up. We've all met those people who are oozing with hatred and bitterness. I don't think there's anything less attractive.

Unforgiveness can negatively affect the body's outward beauty. Yes, your beauty can negatively change. It can interrupt the health of your skin, fingernails, hair, digestion, and sleep patterns.

6 Healing Remedies to Forgiveness

1. Identify the root cause

2. Ask yourself why does it hurt so bad

3. Choose to forgive

4. Take it to Jesus and release yourself from the emotional prison

5. Pray for your offender, you can't force reconciliation but you can offer intercession

6. Be aware of triggers that can suck you back in

Remember, Forgiveness is the gateway to freedom and the pathway to healthy relationships.

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